Two posts in one day? Yep, you are super lucky.
This one is getting typed up super fast because of something I keep seeing all over social media: Belly Shaming.
Every. Single. Day. I see posts in a group I am in where moms are asking how far along they look just based on their bellies. Guess what? No two people will look exactly a like while they are pregnant. My 21 week belly might be equal to your 9 week or 39 week belly. And guess what? That's quite alright!
I wish I could say that it only happens in mom's groups or even on social media for that matter. Sadly, that's not the case. I have heard so many stories of women being asked how far along they are. The worst part? Sometimes they aren't even pregnant. And that is no one's business! Seriously, if it isn't your belly, you probably don't have a reason to comment on it's size.
We don't just walk up to someone in the store and comment about how big their ears or noses are so why is it okay to comment on the size of their belly? Seriously.
It's one thing for the person who is pregnant to post about how they feel great or haven't gained much weight, but if you aren't the one carrying the baby or the doctor taking care of the mom, you probably don't have anything you should be saying to them. It's nice to hear that you look great, but that should be about it.
Here's a couple comments that are ridiculous when it comes to bellies:
"Are you sure there aren't twins int here?"
"You look like you could pop at any second."
"Wow. You are only __ weeks along. I thought you were further along than that."
"You are HUGE!"
"You are so tiny; are you sure you are eating enough?"
"How is that baby going to be healthy if you never gain any weight?"
Here's a few things you can say instead:
"You are beautiful."
"You look great. How do you feel?"
"Is there anything I can help you with?"
I would like to say that you can ask some of the first questions with a close friend, but you really shouldn't. Some people may not show how self-conscious they are about their size, but they may be feeling it. And pregnancy hormones cause enough crazy emotions that we don't need to add on to that by asking questions!
The best thing you can do for someone is be kind and ask if there is anything you can do to help them. And that goes for everyone, not those carrying a baby!
Stepping off soap box now and leaving you with this awesome picture (because it's my favorite from my first pregnancy). :)
-Danielle
This one is getting typed up super fast because of something I keep seeing all over social media: Belly Shaming.
Every. Single. Day. I see posts in a group I am in where moms are asking how far along they look just based on their bellies. Guess what? No two people will look exactly a like while they are pregnant. My 21 week belly might be equal to your 9 week or 39 week belly. And guess what? That's quite alright!
I wish I could say that it only happens in mom's groups or even on social media for that matter. Sadly, that's not the case. I have heard so many stories of women being asked how far along they are. The worst part? Sometimes they aren't even pregnant. And that is no one's business! Seriously, if it isn't your belly, you probably don't have a reason to comment on it's size.
We don't just walk up to someone in the store and comment about how big their ears or noses are so why is it okay to comment on the size of their belly? Seriously.
It's one thing for the person who is pregnant to post about how they feel great or haven't gained much weight, but if you aren't the one carrying the baby or the doctor taking care of the mom, you probably don't have anything you should be saying to them. It's nice to hear that you look great, but that should be about it.
Here's a couple comments that are ridiculous when it comes to bellies:
"Are you sure there aren't twins int here?"
"You look like you could pop at any second."
"Wow. You are only __ weeks along. I thought you were further along than that."
"You are HUGE!"
"You are so tiny; are you sure you are eating enough?"
"How is that baby going to be healthy if you never gain any weight?"
Here's a few things you can say instead:
"You are beautiful."
"You look great. How do you feel?"
"Is there anything I can help you with?"
I would like to say that you can ask some of the first questions with a close friend, but you really shouldn't. Some people may not show how self-conscious they are about their size, but they may be feeling it. And pregnancy hormones cause enough crazy emotions that we don't need to add on to that by asking questions!
The best thing you can do for someone is be kind and ask if there is anything you can do to help them. And that goes for everyone, not those carrying a baby!
Stepping off soap box now and leaving you with this awesome picture (because it's my favorite from my first pregnancy). :)
-Danielle
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