To the mom that doesn't have it all together,
Here's a secret: NONE OF US DO! (and yes, I'm yelling because it is important)
Yep, I said it. We all have our shortcomings and none of us truly have it all together.
Unfortunately, I feel social media has helped spread this lie that you, as a mother, have to have it all together. Go ahead and take a look through your news feed. How many happy pictures or statuses do you see? How many do you see that aren't so happy? How many perfectly decorated and clean houses do you see? And how many pictures are there of a sink full of dirty dishes and toys thrown all around the house?
I'm going to guess that your answers went something like this: lots, none, some, none.
You know why this is? Because we want to put our best reality out there when it comes to Facebook and other Social Media platforms. And this isn't a terrible thing. It's good to show those happy moments and we can be proud of our clean, decorated houses enough to post them.
The problem comes when you start comparing your messy house or grumpy children to those pictures that you are seeing on Social Media.
I guarantee that behind every single one of those pictures/memories shared, are memories that aren't so happy and days of the house being decorated or half-decorated (even more so when we are talking about families that move around all the time....sometimes it takes us a year to get stuff on the wall....I mean I'm just talking for personal experience here).
So don't get down on yourself when your friend posts a wonderful gourmet meal that they cooked from scratch and you are ordering pizza (or even pulling a meal out of the freezer). Don't get down on yourself when you see the family enjoying a wonderful day at the mall when you know that your children would be the ones screaming in the food court that you bought them the wrong meal (been there, done that).
Just remember that we all have those days where we can't be Pinterest-perfect and can't share pictures on Facebook because our day has been terrible/embarrassing.
You are enough and are doing a great job with your children. I know it and I know you know it deep in your heart, even on those crazy deals you don't feel like you have it together.
Just keep on keeping on and remember that we all have those days.
Signed,
Every other mom just trying to make it through this crazy time of life.
PS: My children are running around making a huge mess of their playroom just so I could take a couple minutes to write this post. Just wanted to be honest and put that out there. As much as I would love to pretend that they are sitting quietly teaching themselves how to read and write. ;)
Here's a secret: NONE OF US DO! (and yes, I'm yelling because it is important)
Yep, I said it. We all have our shortcomings and none of us truly have it all together.
Unfortunately, I feel social media has helped spread this lie that you, as a mother, have to have it all together. Go ahead and take a look through your news feed. How many happy pictures or statuses do you see? How many do you see that aren't so happy? How many perfectly decorated and clean houses do you see? And how many pictures are there of a sink full of dirty dishes and toys thrown all around the house?
I'm going to guess that your answers went something like this: lots, none, some, none.
You know why this is? Because we want to put our best reality out there when it comes to Facebook and other Social Media platforms. And this isn't a terrible thing. It's good to show those happy moments and we can be proud of our clean, decorated houses enough to post them.
The problem comes when you start comparing your messy house or grumpy children to those pictures that you are seeing on Social Media.
I guarantee that behind every single one of those pictures/memories shared, are memories that aren't so happy and days of the house being decorated or half-decorated (even more so when we are talking about families that move around all the time....sometimes it takes us a year to get stuff on the wall....I mean I'm just talking for personal experience here).
So don't get down on yourself when your friend posts a wonderful gourmet meal that they cooked from scratch and you are ordering pizza (or even pulling a meal out of the freezer). Don't get down on yourself when you see the family enjoying a wonderful day at the mall when you know that your children would be the ones screaming in the food court that you bought them the wrong meal (been there, done that).
Just remember that we all have those days where we can't be Pinterest-perfect and can't share pictures on Facebook because our day has been terrible/embarrassing.
You are enough and are doing a great job with your children. I know it and I know you know it deep in your heart, even on those crazy deals you don't feel like you have it together.
Just keep on keeping on and remember that we all have those days.
Signed,
Every other mom just trying to make it through this crazy time of life.
PS: My children are running around making a huge mess of their playroom just so I could take a couple minutes to write this post. Just wanted to be honest and put that out there. As much as I would love to pretend that they are sitting quietly teaching themselves how to read and write. ;)
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